Fairy Tale- Shmary Tale

There is no such thing as a fairy tale ending.

Things don’t just magically fall into place like in the movies.

We WANT that to happen. We really do.

If we saw what were real we would see a swashbuckling man who would probably intoxicate you with his cologne, bright smile and beautiful eyes so much so that you fall under his spell. It’s all lovey dovey at first and they can’t keep their hands off of each other. 

Fast forward several years down the road (and possibly a few kids later) and she has put on a good 30-40 lbs since they first “fell in love”.

She’s not really in the mood for passion and love making but she wishes she were but she’s so tired. Besides he really doesn’t “see her”. Did he ever, really? There is arguing. Distance. 

Wandering eyes and wandering hearts.

Perhaps a few stolen moments mimicking love.

But what is love? I mean REALLY.

  
That mythical thing we wish we knew.
Is it the bulge in your pants?

Is it notes & texts, flowers and folly?

Is it the dizzy feeling you get when he whispers ‘sweet nothings’ in your ear, all while he checks his phone. Or his mind is elsewhere.

We don’t want to see that kind of thing because that’s reality. And we don’t want to be faced with reality.

HELL NO! 

We want fantasy.

That’s a much better place to live. It’s safe. No one can hurt you there. You are the queen of your castle. 

Do I believe in fairy tales?

No freaking way.
  

Watch out for falling trees

 Is Love All You Need?  

There is a catchy song made popular by the Beatles “Love is all you need” !
Hmmmm hmmm hmmm love is all you need …

You’re probably humming it right now!

But, the Beatles were sadly mistaken.
Love, in fact, is NOT all you need.
I guess for starters you will need to figure out what is your definition of love. As well as the person that your with, what is THEIR definition.

Because you could feel one way and they another and both of you are right but not necessarily right for each other!

Because we LOVE pizza, we LOVE going to the movies, we LOVE clearance sales, we LOVE our kids and we LOVE our partner.
Love is such an abused and misused word.

When it comes to the one we are with we fight to hang on. For a while, at least.

But why?

What is the driving force keeping us together ?

Through the good and bad ?

The ups & downs?

Why do some stay & some go?

Some stray and some play.

We know that we don’t wake up one day “not in love”. It takes time.

Like a lumberjack chopping at a big, thick healthy, oak tree.

Chop.

Chop.

Chop.

A little piece flies off.

Then another.

And another.

Before long that great oak that you never thought could fall because of its incredible root system suddenly topples over.

But see, it wasn’t so sudden.

Sometimes, you have to stop the chopping.

And let the trunk heal.

Otherwise, the toppling could crush innocent bystanders and no one wants that.